It is sudden, unexpected, and leaves us with a sour taste afterwards. There is no way we can cover up and deny the total effect of this aggression on us. Let’s remember this first shock of yours it is the first indication that the promise of marriage (“to be together to love and respect each other”) was not his soul truth, but only words.Īs a spouse, you have to feel shocked, hurt and totally blindsided by this attack. He is angry, shouting and facing her down with his entire wrath. Many women are shocked the first time their husband screams, name calls or insults them. Knowing that, do you feel the need to find some help for relationship? It is important to keep in mind that you may encounter this type of loud and angry attack, when trying to confront your husband for the first time, when having to set some limits to his behaviors in order to preserve your integrity, or when trying to take a break from the relationship. If you move from asking what’s wrong to confronting him, he will transform this normal conversation into a serious offense, and will resort to yell and fight in messy anger explosions in order to get what he wants, (to silence you just now) especially when it seems like he is losing the battle to get his wish. They believe that male leadership is imposed with violence, and not with integrity and respect. He is always right, remember? Later on, with more personal learning, you will see your husband attaching himself to the male brotherhood trying to impose their personal model of primal masculinity on their wives, so as to get the primacy in marriage. You are starting to discover his deep insecurity, which will demand a show of anger to put the sacred order of marriage with him on top in place again. If now he perceives you as confronting or criticizing him, (or worst, putting him down!) because you ask him only about what’s wrong, he can be even more enraged. You are probably surprised to watch him suddenly acting as if he is always right (and if he has a suspicion that he’s not, it’s your “fault” and you’re “just out to get him”). You even believed that he was attentive and interested to listen and solve your needs. All this time, he was gentle, patient and understanding… and you felt secure in this relationship. You had this intense love affair where you felt smothered by his strong love and need for you….so getting together was the most exciting part of your life. There is a process that takes you from that sweet time of starting a love story with him, to now. Oh, no, your boyfriend was a normal, caring person talking to you with respect…that is why you married him! So now, why is he transformed into this raging man? What happened to him that now you are shocked by his anger explosions? When it comes to practical jokes, the best ones are silly and easy to pull off, while maintaining the element of surprise.You never married a screaming man, did you? The last thing you want is to start a fight over a silly prank. Yes, there are all kinds of pranks that you can play on your husband, but the key is to keep from going overboard in order to avoid losing their trust. Your April Fools’ joke for your husband may even start an all-out spousal prank war, so go ahead and get your game face on if that’s how you want to play it. But doing something big, like covering their car with wrapping paper, will definitely provoke a response, so it’s good to be prepared for a bit of retaliation. For example, you could tell a little white lie that you know will get a satisfying reaction and probably freak him out a bit (but won’t break his heart). Even if you’re not a regular prankster, there are tons of fun April Fools’ pranks to play on your husband for all levels of mischief so you don’t have to miss out on a whole day that’s dedicated to having a good laugh.įor some couples, keeping it simple and small is best. Maybe playing tricks on your husband is a regular thing in your household, but on April Fools’ Day, it's practically a requirement.
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